Radio Personality and Canadian King of pop culture and all things hip, Jian Ghomeshi won't be entertaining us with his smooth, sultry voice across the airwaves. It appears that his idea of foreplay does not involve the typical romantic setting and massage oil, he gets it going with whips instead. His sex life caused him to be fired by CBC. This lends to some interesting debate.
As a woman and a feminist I do not condone the acts of dominance and violence between the sheets. Do I think sex involves the loving glances and seemingly calm climaxes as we see on film? No, I prefer a good hearty bang over roses and chocolates - just no whips please.
Are my sexual preferences anyone's business? Certainly not. The only people involved should be my partner and my girlfriends as we occasionally brag about a hot night over wine (yes, women talk sex and more freely then men among friends). More than once we claim our orgasms the previous night were on the "Top Ten" list, or regale a fun weekend of hotel sex with our partners away from kids and life.
So poor Jian, his dirty laundry literally was very, very dirty. Does that make him subject to a career in ruin, reputation marred and livelihood at risk? Shouldn't we ask if he was a good person, did he care about his family, was he a respectful interviewer and host for all those years? Does his appetite for deviant sex make him a villain or a victim? And why now? If he has practiced his sexual life in this manner, why do his partners feel compelled to come forward to the public? If he truly led them to his chamber of horror without any consent, why did they not charge him?
I don't believe any employer has a right to invade your private parts, Jian's are on full display now.
The victim in this media circus is difficult to identify, however I would rather hold onto my rights for privacy in my bedroom.
Think about it, xo vagi.
There's more to this story than meets the eye.
ReplyDeleteUnless you have been a victim of rape it is difficult to understand why a woman would not come forward and press charges I too have read all the articles. We have a powerful man that targeted some very young women.
ReplyDeleteNow we have one woman letting her name be released, I am guessing we know only the tip of the ice berg regarding the extent of this sick man's behaviour. Violence of this kind cannot be consensual even by the law. This story is not about someone's private life being exposed between two consensual adults.